{"id":12776,"date":"2018-05-14T11:42:47","date_gmt":"2018-05-14T15:42:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shorebeat.com\/brick\/?p=12776"},"modified":"2018-05-14T11:42:47","modified_gmt":"2018-05-14T15:42:47","slug":"happy-birthday-boy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/2018\/05\/happy-birthday-boy\/","title":{"rendered":"Happy Birthday Boy"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Last week you turned fifteen. It happened to be field day at your school, and your smile when you saw me waiting for you to perform was magnificent.<\/p>\n

That smile carries me many days.<\/p>\n

I usually have a variety of emotions on your birthday. I always take time to remember the first moment I heard you cry and held you in my arms- my firstborn, bright with promise. It took about three years and a lot of doctors to get you here, and your dad and I were beyond ecstatic. Your arrival made us a family.<\/p>\n

It launched me into the role I was born into, if you believe in such a thing.<\/p>\n

The reason I\u2019m ambivalent on your birthday has nothing to do with your label, or even the dreams I had for you when I was still hosting you. I\u2019m mostly past feeling sad that you will never go to college, marry, or enjoy the trappings of a more \u201cconventional\u201d life, because in my mother\u2019s heart I know you don\u2019t miss these things. You are truly happy with your DVDs, your YouTube videos and your hits of Baby Einstein. When not in the throes of a catatonia episode you are blissfully happy. It is more than enough.<\/p>\n

It is almost everything.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not ambivalent on your birthdays because of you \u201cnow.\u201d I\u2019m ambivalent because of your future. You see birthday boy, your mom reads a lot and talks to many people about what\u2019s coming down the pike as you enter your transition years.<\/p>\n

By the way just yesterday you were snuggled into a perfect fit in my arms, so how did this happen?<\/p>\n

Some people call post-21 the cliff (or the abyss, it depends who you talk to).<\/p>\n

Some say they\u2019ve been able to create fulfilling lives for their adult children.<\/p>\n

I want you to know with every inch of my soul I\u2019m shooting for the latter.<\/p>\n

I also want you to know that last week I did something different- I pushed that ambivalence down, lived in the moment (!) and just reveled in who you are, did not imagine who you will be.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m very proud of myself.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re strong, mercurial, funny, kind, smart and abundantly affectionate.<\/p>\n

Your hugs are the best thing in the universe.<\/p>\n

I love you with every core of my being, and I will fight for you with my last breath.<\/p>\n

You are my heart.<\/p>\n

Happy birthday to my not-so-much\u2013a-boy anymore.<\/p>\n

I love you.<\/p>\n

For more on my family visit my blog at autismmommytherapist.wordpress.com<\/em><\/p>\n

Follow me on Facebook at Autism Mommy-Therapist<\/em><\/p>\n

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