{"id":14352,"date":"2019-03-11T11:41:20","date_gmt":"2019-03-11T15:41:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.shorebeat.com\/brick\/?p=14352"},"modified":"2019-03-11T14:25:34","modified_gmt":"2019-03-11T18:25:34","slug":"compassion-at-the-cinema","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/2019\/03\/compassion-at-the-cinema\/","title":{"rendered":"Compassion at the Cinema"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-14353\" src=\"https:\/\/www.shorebeat.com\/brick\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Fall-2018-014-400x533.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"400\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Fall-2018-014-400x533.jpg 400w, https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Fall-2018-014-768x1024.jpg 768w, https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Fall-2018-014-315x420.jpg 315w, https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Fall-2018-014-640x853.jpg 640w, https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/03\/Fall-2018-014-681x908.jpg 681w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>This past weekend I had the opportunity to take Justin to see the last of the \u201cHow to Train Your Dragon\u201d movies at our local theater. This is a series we have both loved, as evidenced by the amount of times he has chosen to play the DVDs of the first two movies on his DVD player.<\/p>\n<p>Here\u2019s a secret- I love the franchise as much as he does.<\/p>\n<p>Justin did spectacularly at the cinema, however there have been times in the past when attempting a movie was an epic fail. At times he has just been too loud for me to bring him to anything but the sensory showings, which have since been discontinued. Then there was a period of a few years where he\u2019d leave as soon as the popcorn was finished.<\/p>\n<p>Eventually there was a period where we\u2019d never even make it past the previews.<\/p>\n<p>The truth is (if you haven\u2019t figured this out by now) that I am stubborn, and although we took some cinematic breaks, I always knew I\u2019d give it another try. He is still loud sometimes. When he\u2019s excited he bounces up and down in his chair.<\/p>\n<p>And I can honestly tell you that this weekend nobody gave a damn.<\/p>\n<p>Now that we can pick our seats (a Godsend!) I strategically choose the back row, end seats. Given how loud these movies are I usually only have to worry about the people just to the right or left of us as the people in front are too far away to be affected. This past Sunday I had the good fortune to sit next to a mom to whom I introduced myself, told her about Justin, explained about the possibility of bouncing and vocal utterances, and waited to see her response.<\/p>\n<p>I got back a smile and a \u201cNo problem, it\u2019s perfectly fine.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>To me, that\u2019s just pure joy.<\/p>\n<p>I will be honest and tell you that ten years ago I would have cared a great deal more about what someone thought of my son\u2019s deep-voiced vocals. At this point he\u2019s not much louder now than many of the toddlers who frequent these films, and I can rein him in when he really gets going. I will tell you however that having someone sit next to me who got it and truly didn\u2019t care if my teen got excited watching a kid\u2019s movie just put me at ease.<\/p>\n<p>And given this life, I truly enjoy things that put me at ease.<\/p>\n<p>With Autism Awareness month fast approaching, I am just so grateful that people \u201cget it,\u201d both for me as a \u201cseasoned veteran,\u201d but more for those families whose children have just been diagnosed or are dealing with extremely challenging situations. A kind word can make all the difference- understanding and acceptance can literally change a family\u2019s day from negative to positive.<\/p>\n<p>So thank you, stranger in a movie theater on a rainy Sunday. I hope people read about you and are inspired to mirror your compassion.<\/p>\n<p>Thank you!<\/p>\n<p><em>For more on my family visit my blog at autismmommytherapist.wordpress.com<\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Follow me on Facebook at Autism Mommy-Therapist<\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"fcbkbttn_buttons_block\" id=\"fcbkbttn_left\"><div class=\"fb-share-button fcbkbttn_large_button \" data-href=\"https:\/\/shorebeat.com\/brick\/2019\/03\/compassion-at-the-cinema\/\" data-type=\"button_count\" data-size=\"large\"><\/div><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This past weekend I had the opportunity to take Justin to see the last of the \u201cHow to Train Your Dragon\u201d movies at our local theater. 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